Thursday, April 12, 2007
It's Been A Long Time, Since I Rock and Rolled!
I'm still here. . .I still have a ton of thoughts I would like to write about. . . But time, it's not on my side???
Here is a fundamental truth about getting others to be successful.
If you do not demonstrate, with your actions, that you are committed to a value, a work ethic, a goal, etc. . . those that you wish to lead will NOT follow.
Parents, bosses, teachers, coaches, or whoever. . . you can not just stand in front of your kids, employees, students, athletes, etc. . . and talk about success. You must lead by example.
Too many people can talk the talk, but they fail to walk the walk. . .They ask a lot out of others but fail to ask the same for themselves.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote:
"Who you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying."
As a coach, I can not expect my players to get into the gym and play hoops unless I make that commitment. Nor can I expect my players to get up at 6:30 in the morning to come in to work out, unless I get up at 6:30.
Great coaches, bosses, teachers, & leaders are the ones who ask more of themself than they asks of those that they lead.
Parents. . . If you want your child to value something. . .you must show them, with your actions, what it is you want them to value. Sports are a great way to teach young people so many habits that will make them successful in life.
However, too many parents feel that the institution is responsible for the child's success. I'm not just talking about the parents who blame the coaches for the lack of success their child has in sports.
How many times do we read in the newspapers that American schools are failing? I'm sorry if this hurts some people's feelings but our schools are not failing!
Parents, you are the number one reason why your child succeeds or fails in the classroom. You are not the only reason but you are the biggest factor in the success of your child.
I get sooooooooooooo frustrated with this "blame" game that everyone plays. Can schools get better, Yes! Are there some poor teachers out there, Yes! However, when a child comes home from a poor school, classroom or teacher there is nothing stopping the parent from helping their child learn.
How may parents tell their kids to do their homework versus how many parents help their kids do their homework?
How many parents tell their kids to read versus how many parents shut off the television and read to their kids?
How many parents yell at their child for bad grades or blame the teacher versus how many parents search for a way to help their child overcome learning problems?
How many parents tell their children they have to get their work done before they can play xbox 360?
Talking is easy. . . setting an example is hard. Too many choose the easy path.
The parents that complain and blame are the ones that are really hurting their child.
You see it all the time in coaching. So many parents quickly go to the philosophy of:
"If my child isn't succeeding it must be the coach's fault."
How does that improve the situation?
Wouldn't it be better if you worked with your child on their skills? Or if you showed them the value of hard work by going out and working on their game with them? If nothing else wouldn't it be better for them, in the long run, if you helped them realize that sometimes things don't always work the way that we want them to work but you can still create great experiences by being a part of a program?
That's probably why people say: "You can talk the talk but can you walk the walk".
It doesn't take a lot of effort to point fingers and blame others. . .In fact it is the easy way out of most situations. It does take effort to work to be a problem solver. . . to look at yourself in the mirror and make that needed change. . .
Here is a fundamental truth about getting others to be successful.
If you do not demonstrate, with your actions, that you are committed to a value, a work ethic, a goal, etc. . . those that you wish to lead will NOT follow.
Parents, bosses, teachers, coaches, or whoever. . . you can not just stand in front of your kids, employees, students, athletes, etc. . . and talk about success. You must lead by example.
Too many people can talk the talk, but they fail to walk the walk. . .They ask a lot out of others but fail to ask the same for themselves.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote:
"Who you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying."
As a coach, I can not expect my players to get into the gym and play hoops unless I make that commitment. Nor can I expect my players to get up at 6:30 in the morning to come in to work out, unless I get up at 6:30.
Great coaches, bosses, teachers, & leaders are the ones who ask more of themself than they asks of those that they lead.
Parents. . . If you want your child to value something. . .you must show them, with your actions, what it is you want them to value. Sports are a great way to teach young people so many habits that will make them successful in life.
However, too many parents feel that the institution is responsible for the child's success. I'm not just talking about the parents who blame the coaches for the lack of success their child has in sports.
How many times do we read in the newspapers that American schools are failing? I'm sorry if this hurts some people's feelings but our schools are not failing!
Parents, you are the number one reason why your child succeeds or fails in the classroom. You are not the only reason but you are the biggest factor in the success of your child.
I get sooooooooooooo frustrated with this "blame" game that everyone plays. Can schools get better, Yes! Are there some poor teachers out there, Yes! However, when a child comes home from a poor school, classroom or teacher there is nothing stopping the parent from helping their child learn.
How may parents tell their kids to do their homework versus how many parents help their kids do their homework?
How many parents tell their kids to read versus how many parents shut off the television and read to their kids?
How many parents yell at their child for bad grades or blame the teacher versus how many parents search for a way to help their child overcome learning problems?
How many parents tell their children they have to get their work done before they can play xbox 360?
Talking is easy. . . setting an example is hard. Too many choose the easy path.
The parents that complain and blame are the ones that are really hurting their child.
You see it all the time in coaching. So many parents quickly go to the philosophy of:
"If my child isn't succeeding it must be the coach's fault."
How does that improve the situation?
Wouldn't it be better if you worked with your child on their skills? Or if you showed them the value of hard work by going out and working on their game with them? If nothing else wouldn't it be better for them, in the long run, if you helped them realize that sometimes things don't always work the way that we want them to work but you can still create great experiences by being a part of a program?
That's probably why people say: "You can talk the talk but can you walk the walk".
It doesn't take a lot of effort to point fingers and blame others. . .In fact it is the easy way out of most situations. It does take effort to work to be a problem solver. . . to look at yourself in the mirror and make that needed change. . .
# posted by Viking Warrior @ 11:49 PM 
